Lets face it teaching a another human being to feed themselves is just plain awkward. My almost 3 year old survives on peanut butter sandwiches. She wants one for breakfast, snack, lunch, and dinner. She refuses much else. When I searched for a mother's day out program for her, my first question was "is peanut butter forbidden?" For someone who loves to cook and loves food like myself, this is torture. Oh, and you can believe I have tried numerous ways to get her to eat other things. Her diet is so limited and I worry I created this madness. When she was a baby, I made all her purees from scratch. And she loved them! It wasn't until we moved on to table food or finger foods that this craziness began. She wouldn't touch the majority of what we had. At some point, she became the pickiest eater I know.
Fast forward to baby number 2. I was not going to have another picky eater. And with a busy toddler under foot, making homemade purees just didn't seem as fun as it did the first time. We already ate very healthy, balanced meals, so I decided to give baby led weaning a try. Oh my God, I am so happy I did!! Wednesday night, she had tilapia with spinach and feta couscous-and loved it! Thursday night, she had roasted chicken and zucchini pasta--and love it! Friday night, was homemade organic bacon cheeseburger pizza--and she loved it!
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Scrambled eggs are a breakfast favorite and perfect texture for babies without teeth! |
Baby led weaning is so easy. I purchased
this book for advice and to answer what questions I had, but really, I found all the same information on Google and Pinterest. Basically, you wait til six months old or when they start showing signs of readiness (reaching for your plate, licking their lips, putting things in their mouth, able to sit up alone). By waiting until six months old, their digestive system is capable of digesting most anything. I consulted my pediatrician who advised that the only thing necessary to refrain from offering is honey (until at least 1 year old).
You simply give your baby whatever you are eating. I sometimes have to cook hers a little differently but for the most part, she eats off my plate. I make sure her food is soft enough that she can smash it with her tongue but not so soft that it falls apart in her hand. I give her pieces of food that are big enough for her to pick up and extend enough from her grip that she can get it to her mouth. So most fruits and veggies I now cut in wedges or strips instead of chopping up. I leave skins on so that they are not quite as slippery. A good rule of thumb on size is that if the food is big enough for them to pick up, they shouldn't choke on it. Rosalie is seven months old now and is starting to pick up smaller chunks. I am really surprised at how well her coordination has improved in the last month. She's getting better at scooping up and opening her hand to dump food in her mouth. Meats and thicker things she just sucks on until they disintegrate. Yogurt, soup or foods that are to be eaten with a spoon are pretty simple too. I just make sure they are thick or sticky enough to offer her on a baby spoon and then hand it to her and she licks it all off.
There are a few things that I have to keep in mind about feeding her that are worth mentioning. First, there's that chocking thing. According to the literature, a baby's gag reflex is at the front of their mouth. So this helps them to spit out food that is too big to swallow before it reaches the back of their mouth or throat. Sure, there will be gagging. They are learning how to eat. But my first baby gagged on purees, so that gives my some comfort. I have to really trust my baby. That doesn't mean I can leave her side for even a minute while she's eating. I just mean that I don't freak out when she puts too big of a piece in her mouth. I have to let her learn her limits.
Second, she has control of how much she eats. Sometimes she eats everything I put in front of her. Other times she just plays with it. One of the hardest things for me is not intervening. I have to make a conscious effort not to put food in her mouth or take it away. I don't know why this is such a big deal for me. With pureed foods, you can easily tell exactly what they've eaten. Its not that simple with BLW. Rosalie takes her time eating. She will sometimes be the last one at the table. Other times, she doesn't care to eat and wants to just play.
Which brings me to another point. This is MESSY business. I'm a neat freak and my husband is a germaphobe. This does not bode well with babies throwing their food around. It's also the hardest part of BLW, in my opinion. Food will be smashed, smeared and tossed everywhere! There's usually a buffet in her lap and her clothing will be frosted with food. There will be food in nostrils, ears and places you didn't know they could reach. Dinner is always followed by a bath.
I've had to come up with ways to minimize messes. We have a bar height dining room table so her high chair just doesn't work well at dinner. I've taken to feeding her in the Bumbo with the tray attached. I like this because both are small enough to easily wash off in the sink after a meal, making clean up a cinch. I sit her on the table so I can reach her since I would much rather wipe up the table after a meal than clean and mop floors. (Just a disclaimer about the Bumbo...My baby is never left unattended. So please be advised that I'm not suggesting you set your baby in the Bumbo on the table. This works for my family and may not for yours.) Up until now, I had been stripping her down and using a bib around her neck and tucking a dish towel around her waist to catch food. But standard bibs just don't cut it and my dish towels are becoming quite stained. I'd seen towel bibs before but didn't have a use until now. So I set out to make my own. They turned out to be a super convenient and were very inexpensive and quick to make. Here's a quick tutorial on how.
You will need:
a dish towel (I purchase two cute towels at Ikea but the next set Im making are from the dollar store)
1-1 1/2 yards of binding tape per
towel
a cd
marker
scissors
straight pins
sewing machine
First, place the cd in the center of the dish towel several inches from the edge. I divided my towel in thirds and centered a third of the way down. Trace the cd onto the towel. Add a straight 2-3 inch line at the top of the circle. Like so....
Next cut out your circle and along line. Crease the edges of the line so that they resemble a lapel and then pin your binding tape along edge by stretching the sides out until nearly straight line, in order to get the binding tape around the "v". Sew on the binding tape. (A side note: Binding tape is super easy to work with if you never have. Its basically trim that has an open edge to sandwich your fabric in. I love this stuff to make a perfect finished edge when my fabric frays or my cuts are not ideal. Its nearly foolproof!)
For the head opening, begin pinning the binding tape on while leaving a length of binding tape that will become the ties. I left mine about 12 inches long on either side.
Fold in the ends of the binding tape to create a finished point. Begin sewing at one of the ties. This is simply just a straight stitch to close up the binding tape. Then sew around the head opening ending by sewing up the opposite tie. And that's it, your DONE!
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If I had a close up you would see just how bad my sewing skills are. But as far as I'm concerned, this is a bib, it doesn't have to be perfect. |
You now have a great big bib/towel to cover and clean up all those baby messes.
How cute is this? That's my sweet Rosie, enjoying her yogurt snack, obviously taken before we were both covered in it. How do you handle your feeding messes? I would love to hear your feeding experiences.